Dating is something that is personal and individual.
There are no set rules or circumstances in dating. Every person is different and every date is different.
There are some guidelines and basic ideals that will help you when you are stepping out into the dating world.
You need to be able to have a conversation with people.
If you are not able to talk to someone, you are not going to be able to go on successful dates.
You need to be able to have basic conversations. This is not to say that you have to be able to pour out your heart and soul to a date.
You just need to be able to have a basic conversation and keep someone’s interest and attention in you.
Honesty is another very important part of dating.
If you are not able to be honest with yourself and with those that you come in contact with, you are not going to get anywhere.
You will immediately set yourself up for failure if you are dishonest.
Being honest with you is just as important as being honest with others.
You need to know exactly what you want out of things and what you are looking for in a date.
If you have false hopes or unrealistic ideas, you are not going to get anywhere.
You are setting yourself up for failure before you even start.
Look within yourself and decide what it is that you want before you start looking for someone to date.
Be particular about where you go to look for people to date. Bars and nightclubs are bad places to meet people.
Most often people in these places are under the influence of alcohol. They are impaired and not capable of entering into a relationship or even a simple date.
You could set up a date with someone and then they could have forgotten it by the next morning.
Or, you could become intoxicated and make poor decisions. This can lead to a wide variety of problems. It is best to avoid these situations at all costs.
If you do go to a bar or a nightclub, it should not be for the purpose of looking for a date or trying to start a relationship.
When you are starting to date, it is important to take things slowly.
You do not want to rush into something and end up ruining a wonderful thing. Take your time and really get to know the person that you are spending time with.
Do not push to advance your relationship or push for more.
You will both know when the time is right. You will be able to discuss your thoughts and feelings and you will both communicate and talk about when to move to the next level of your relationship.
If you are both happy and things are going well, there is no reason to move faster than you are comfortable with.
If the relationship is good, then neither of you is going anywhere and you will both still be there no matter what.
As you can see the dating principals are a matter of common sense and treating people the same way you want to be treated.
Also published on Medium.