It’s that deep, dark emptiness you feel after you break up with someone that’s hard to take. Everybody around you says the dumbest things like, “I understand”, “It happens to everybody” and “There’s plenty of fish in the sea”.
What a bunch of malarkey! You know they mean well, but your case is different.
Perhaps you just broke up yesterday, or maybe it’s been longer, but…
All of a sudden you get up at 2:00 AM with the sudden urge to call your ex and tell them how you feel; hoping to get back together.
You want a chance to plead your case, to get a fair shot. So, should you call, or should you wait, Some relationship gurus will tell you not to be the first to call, but who cares, You want to get back together.
Using the following tips will help make that phone call go much better.
Timing isn’t everything, it’s the only thing.
Maybe all that’s needed is a bit of time for things to settle down before your ex will be ready to take your call. Besides, when you’re both calmed down, any ensuing conversation will go much smoother.
Oh, and about the 2:00 AM telephone call, Don’t do it. It shows desperation and a lack of respect.
Tell the truth. I’m not suggesting you relationship ended due to a lack of trust, but it certainly is one of the more common reasons people break up.
From this point forward, if you want any chance of getting back together, you must be honest.
It’s not always easy, but trust is the foundation of all successful relationships. By the way, there is no such thing as being “technically true”; such as lies of omission or manipulation.
Admit where you were wrong. Hey, it’s okay to be human.
Just let your ex know that you messed up and are willing to accept responsibility and change as needed. You can also let them know that you may still mess up, but that you will be trying your best. It’s not always easy, but you’ll have to swallow your pride if you want to be making up.
Don’t debate. It can be very tempting to call for the sake of proving your point.
Bad idea. If you are only calling to argue, then you aren’t ready to make a call to patch things up. It’s as simple as that.
Any of these tips can work, but only if you’re making the call with the right intentions.
Placing that first call is a serious step, but do your best to keep cool. Also keep in mind that this is just a telephone call to reopen communication. Making up will still take some worthwhile effort.
Proceed slowly and you will get your ex back before you know it.